Tips for Playing with Young Children: A Guide for Parents and Carers
Play is more than just fun — it’s how children learn about themselves and the world around them. But let’s be honest: playing with young children isn’t always easy. They’re loud, messy, imaginative, and constantly changing the rules! Whether you're a parent, carer, or grandparent, these tips will help make playtime meaningful, safe, and developmentally rich.
1. Relax and Enjoy the Moment
Children love it when we are present. You don’t need fancy skills or a perfect playroom, just your attention and willingness to join in. Try to switch off distractions, put away your phone, and tune into their world. This builds strong emotional connections and makes your child feel truly seen and heard.
Tip: Even just 10–15 minutes of undivided attention can make a big difference in your child’s day.
2. Offer Safe and Varied Play Opportunities
Children explore the world through play. Make sure their play environment is safe and filled with a variety of age-appropriate toys, including:
Open-ended toys like blocks, scarves, or play-dough
Pretend play props like dolls, toy animals, or dress-ups
Toys that challenge their thinking, like puzzles or stacking games
Sensory toys like textured balls, sand, or water play
Tip: Rotate toys weekly to spark curiosity and keep play fresh.
3. Use Play to Teach Empathy and Kindness
Playing with animal figurines or stuffed toys is an excellent way to model kindness, care, and empathy. You can gently introduce conversations like:
“Let’s take care of the baby bunny. What does she need?”
“This puppy is sad. What can we do to help him feel better?”
Children learn emotional skills best when they see them in action.
4. Motivate Them to Try New and Challenging Things
Play is the perfect opportunity to encourage children to step out of their comfort zone. Praise effort, not perfection, and offer encouragement like:
“Wow, you tried something tricky — I’m proud of you!”
“I love how you kept trying until it worked!”
This builds confidence, persistence, and a growth mindset — all through play.
5. Be Fair with Attention
Children are quick to notice when a sibling gets more attention. Try giving each child their special moment with you, even if it’s short. This reduces rivalry and helps each child feel valued.
Tip: Use a timer or take turns when playing with multiple children.
6. Accept That It Can Be Loud and Messy
Yes — play can be chaotic! But that’s part of how children explore and express themselves. Instead of trying to control the mess, prepare for it:
Use a play mat for messy activities or play outside
Keep wipes and aprons nearby
Set boundaries like “messy play stays at the table”
Tip: Messy play is often sensory-rich, which supports brain development and regulation.
7. Remember — PLAY is Fun!
At the heart of it all, children play to feel good. Laugh with them. Let them lead sometimes. Join their games and be silly. These shared joyful moments build emotional security and strong parent-child relationships.
Final Thought: It's Not About Doing It Perfectly
You don’t need to be the "perfect" parent or carer. Your presence, love, and willingness to join their world is enough. Play is not about doing more; it is about connecting with intention.