6 Powerful Ways to Build Self-Confidence in Young Children

Helping children believe in themselves is one of the greatest gifts we can give as parents and caregivers. At Sensory SMART OT, we see firsthand how confidence shapes a child’s ability to try, to cope, and to thrive, especially in a world that often moves too fast for little hearts.

In this blog, we’ll explore six practical ways to build self-confidence in young children, supporting both their emotional well-being and independence. Whether your child is neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or simply finding their feet in the world, these strategies can make a meaningful difference.

1. Encourage Children to Learn New Skills

Learning something new, whether it’s tying shoelaces, baking muffins, or riding a scooter, builds self-confidence. When a child succeeds at something they thought was hard, they grow in self-confidence. Support their efforts with patience and allow room for mistakes. Progress, not perfection, is the key.

2. Give Choices and Responsibilities

When children are offered real choices, such as what clothes to wear or which vegetable to eat, they feel a sense of control. Age-appropriate responsibilities like feeding the pet or packing their own bag help them feel capable and valued.

3. Provide Specific Positive Feedback

Generic praise like “Good job!” doesn’t go far. Instead, use specific feedback: “You were so patient with your brother — that shows kindness.” This helps children understand what they did well and builds a stronger internal sense of achievement.

4. Remind Kids to Focus on Their Strengths

Children often compare themselves to others, especially once they start school. Help them see their own unique strengths. Name these strengths regularly and sincerely if your child is creative, observant, kind, or a natural helper.

5. Celebrate Their Accomplishments — Big and Small

Did your child finally zip up their jacket or finish a puzzle? Celebrate it! Small wins pave the way for more significant challenges. Acknowledging effort (not just outcomes) teaches kids that they’re growing and improving every day.

6. Help Kids Set Their Own Goals

Confidence blossoms when children learn how to set and achieve goals. Start small: “What would you like to learn this week?” Guide them to break tasks into steps and cheer them on. This teaches initiative and builds a healthy internal motivator.

Why This Matters

Children who believe in themselves are more likely to take healthy risks, bounce back after setbacks, and build positive relationships. As Occupational Therapists, we know self-confidence isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s essential for emotional regulation, learning, and independence.

Feel free to reach out if you're looking for more support or sensory-smart strategies tailored to your child’s needs. We’re here to walk this journey with you.

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